Life guarantees that things will go wrong and we’ll get hurt. Sometimes in those moments, we freeze or panic. The lesson that my father taught me is, when those things happen, get calm, breathe—and OPEN THE DOOR.
One minute you belonged to something—be it healthy or dysfunctional, it’s your tribe, your family—and the next minute, it’s taken away. You’re suddenly, unexpectedly, bewilderedly alone.
After losing my dad as a child, I felt alone. Now I truly was lost. All my family had left me behind.
Life lesson- lesson again: I just had to open the door and let love in, from others and myself.
To the next generation of Wayward Brothers and Sisters, or anybody who feels lost or stuck, here is what I have learned along the way. I hope it helps you.
- Good people make bad decisions; that doesn’t make them bad people, it just makes it a bad decision.
- Forgive easily and often, others and especially yourself. I enjoy an amazing relationship with my mother today. Refer to rule number 1.
- You are not broken, and therefore do not need “fixing.” You are perfect, just the way you are. Just as Cane pointed out, I was worth loving. And so are you!
- Life rewards the brave, so be brave. Take a chance, on yourself and others. It would have been extremely easy to sink into a hole and let my life go sideways and blame others for it. Bravery is choosing not to be a victim of your circumstances and instead, proactively create your life.
- Love yourself first with all your heart and be your own best friend. Those around you will benefit.
- Just because someone says it, doesn’t mean it’s true. They have the right to an opinion, but you also have the right to choose to not believe it. Life told me I was unlovable. Cane proved them wrong.
- Happiness is a choice, not a place, thing, moment, or a person. Only you can make you happy.
- Everything happens for a reason, so figure out why. There are no mistakes in life, only lessons.
- Lastly, and most importantly, OPEN THE DOOR AND SET YOURSELF FREE!